Do you have those days or weeks (or months) where it seems all you do is take care of everyone else? You’re constantly cooking, cleaning, washing laundry and chauffeuring the kids everywhere?
It’s exhausting, right?
It’s ok to stop, you know. Just relax and take a break for a few minutes.
I heard from an old friend last week and after catching up on old news, she reminded me that we moms need care too. Recent comments from well-meaning friends insinuated we needed to make bigger sacrifices for our kids. Like running ourselves ragged racing our kids to different activities would be good.
My head swam just thinking about it. I said something like, “You know, this isn’t the season for us to take part in sports or dancing. Maybe next year.”
Well, that is NOT something a woman wants to hear when she is running herself ragged trying to manage her mom tasks and raise a well-rounded child. I get it which is why I did not yell at her when she suggested I make bigger sacrifices for my own children, although for a second I may have wanted to pinch her neck off encourage her to see my perspective.
My big-family friend laughed about this and just reminded me that every family is different and what works for them may not work for us. That’s true and it’s all fine and good, but then there’s this.
It doesn’t matter what season of raising rugrats you’re in, you need a break. To be the best mom and wife you can be, you’ve gotta take a selfie. Not an Insta-selfie, but a self-care selfie.
Just start small. Take 15 minutes a day to yourself. Dad’s working and you don’t have a babysitter? Don’t worry! Send the kids out to play in the yard, grab a chair and sit out in the sun while they play.
I know some of you are thinking it’s January and below zero degrees in your state. Gimme some grace. I forget that outside Florida there may not be sunshine right now. Just find another way to take a break. Ignore the dishes while the kids nap and just stretch out on the couch with a mug of hot vanilla chamomile tea. Or soak in a hot bath after they’ve gone to bed.
Whatever it is, start out with a 15-minute increment of time to be refreshed, revived, and ready to take on that Sharpie-marker wall scribbling toddler. Take care of yourself so you can best take care of your family.
You can do it, mom.